2 years ago today, the priest told us the above quote at our wedding ceremony. His little quote still makes us giggle and our friends still talk about it … but we all know that Father Manny was right. Although we’ve only been married for 2 years, we have been together for 10 years. I’d be lying if I said our relationship has always been filled with candy and roses. We do have the occasional “debate.”
Gee and I have always said that we don’t fight … we debate! What makes a fight different from a debate is that we are really listening to each other and trying to understand the other person’s point of view. After our debate, we come to some sort of compromise and decide what the best thing is to do.
I make our debates sound very civil, huh? It’s not always that way. Sometimes they get really heated and sometimes we cry … but we never go to bed angry. We always come to some sort of compromise or we realize at the end how silly we were for debating in the first place.
After we got married our debates have gotten shorter. One of the reason’s that they have gotten shorter is we started to say, “One Vision!” in the middle of our debate. It always lightens the mood and reminds us that we’ve got to get to the point and compromise.
Always remember to share the same vision with your partner. If there are any disagreements … don’t fight … debate!