You can do it!

November 21, 2010

I’ve been catching up on Grey’s Anatomy season 6.  If you are not familiar with this show,  it’s a medical drama tv series that focuses on the lives of several  surgeons.  To me,  it’s more about life than it is the surgeries.

While watching season 6 the quote, “Just because you’ve never done it, doesn’t mean you can’t” was said a couple of times. 

That quote reminds me of all the times I’ve said, “I can’t,” “I don’t know how,” or “you do it, I’m scared.”  Those were moments of panic and fear where I doubted myself and my ability as a human being.  In those moments,  I missed the opportunity to become something great.

There is always going to be a little fear inside of when we are faced with something new.  We fear the consequences if something goes wrong so much that we let it hinder our ability to move forward and see the consequences if everything goes right.

In the moments when I’ve said, “Sure,” “Why not, it’s fun,”  or “I’ll do it with some help” … I’ve been able to work through the fear and see that 99% of the time,  everything works out okay.  I walk away with more knowledge and that knowledge makes me GREAT.  It’s the one thing that no one can take away from you.

Get over the initial fear and you’ll be able to accomplish all your little heart desires.

Be brave!
Cat

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Firework

November 21, 2010

So my fave feel good song of the moment would have to be Katy Perry’s “Firework”.  The message is empowering, and it’s set to a sweet beat.   It just sounds like fun, and there aren’t too many songs in mainstream media that are so encouraging!  I’m sure you’ve heard it by now, but here’s a youtube.com video with lyrics for your listening & viewing pleasure…enjoy!

“maybe your reason why all the doors are closed…so you could open one that leads you to the perfect road” – katy perry


It’s been a while…

November 18, 2010
Where has the time gone?!?  I can’t believe this year is almost over already, and I haven’t written a blog in months!  Thankfully co-blogger, Cat, has been holding things down here at HOH. =)
 
So there has been a lot of changes and situations in my life lately that have kept me pretty busy and consumed.  Some great, some bad, and some eye opening.  However, many situations are out of my control.  I’ve had to adjust my mindset and perceptions of things several times the past few months, and that’s not always an easy thing to do.  I guess I could say I’ve sort of been standing in different lines at the same time, trying to figure out which moves to make, and waiting for the resolutions to come.  Nonetheless, I just try to remember to take on each challenge as it comes, and remind myself of a lot of the things that the blog entries we write on HOH are all about.  When life gives you lemons, right?  Doing my best to be positive, and believing that it will all be okay goes such a looong way!  Things could definitely be worse, and in time they WILL get better.  Seriously, having positive influences in your life is such a powerful thing!  They’ve really helped me keep my head up!  Always remember, the world has a funny way of working itself out…and it always will!  We will keep growing!  Have a nice day!
– Sharon

The Power of Intention

November 16, 2010

I recently bought one of his books called The Power of Intention  written by Dr. Wayne Dyer which explores the idea that intention is not something we do, but an energy we are a part of.  I know exactly what he is referring to.  Everything falls into place when I give into this force that tells me something just “feels right.”

Here’s an excerpt from page 10 of the book that I thought was very interesting.  I hope you find it interesting too.

Ego is made of six primary ingredients that account for how we experience ourselves as disconnected.  By allowing ego to determine your life path, you deactivate the power of intention.  Briefly, here are the six ego beliefs.  I’ve written more extensively about them in several of my previous books, most notably Your Sacred Self.

  1. I am what I have.  My possession define me.
  2. I am what I do.  My achievements define me.
  3. I am what others think of me.  My reputation defines me.
  4. I am separate from everyone.  My body defines me as alone.
  5. I am separate from all that is missing in my life.  My life space is disconnected from my desires.
  6. I am separate from God.  My life depends on God’s assessment of my worthiness.

No matter how hard you try, intention can’t be accessed through ego, so take some time to recognize and read just any or all of these six beliefs.  When the supremacy of ego is weakened in your life, you can seek intention and maximize your potential.

Just me,
Cat


“Hi, how are you?”

November 13, 2010

For the sake of  being polite,  we tend to walk briskly past each other and say a quick “Hi, how are you?”  We don’t even stop to really listen to the response.  It’s like we are just being polite and we don’t really care how the other person is doing …. which is actually quite rude.

Admitt it,  you are guilty of it, too.

The next time you walk past someone say, “Hi,  how are you?” then stop and wait for a response.  The greeting is much more sincere and more rewarding.  I know, I’m corny, but it really does feel good when someone shows they care … even if it’s just for a couple of seconds.

If you don’t care for the small talk at the moment just smile and say “hi!”  A simple smile and “hi” can also really make someone’s day.  Especially if they are having a rough one.

Just me,
Cat


The Unspoken Word

November 12, 2010

I got this in my inbox today courtesey of Bob Proctor’s Insight of the Day. It’s long but I believe that this is something we all can relate to so I wanted to share.

Don’t forget to tell someone you love them today …. just me, Cat

Lost in Translation

There is definitely something to be said for the unspoken word. Those moments when a simple look or touch tells you exactly what the other person is thinking or feeling. Sadly as magical as those "silent" moments may be, overtime I think we rely too much on them and those thoughts or feelings we are trying to convey to one another get lost in translation.

We forget that the spoken word has some pretty powerful magic of its own.

We stop saying "I love you" because we assume that it is a well-known fact. We stop complimenting each other, because after a while, we figure "its all been said before, so why say it again". We stop telling our loved ones how much we appreciate the things they do, because those things become the norm, lose their luster and eventually go unnoticed.

I saw an elderly couple in the grocery store the other day. They seemed as though they were still in the "honeymoon phase" of their relationship. He held her hand, kissed her cheek and told her he loved her all in the few moments I was near them. Her response was to pat him on the cheek and say "I love you too handsome".

Yes it seemed a little strange of a scene for grocery shopping, but also refreshing to see people who I’m sure have lived through many heartaches, letdowns and broken promises to still be so loving and cherish another human being’s affection so much. I found myself wondering. are they new to this relationship or have they been together most of their lives? The answer didn’t really matter much to me, but the question was worth thinking about. If they were new to the relationship, they were off to a good start. If they had been together for 30-40 years, well. I’d say we could all learn a lot from them.

Seeing these two made me consider my own life and how I communicate with the people I love. I considered how many times I have looked at my husband or daughter and felt an almost breathtaking amount of love, compassion or pride for them and yet I stood and said nothing. I considered how many times I lay next to my husband and wanted nothing more than to be close to him and yet I did not move from my side of the bed. And I wonder why that is. Is it some deep-rooted insecurity or fear of rejection? Probably. But even so, am I not a strong enough person to overcome those fears? I would hope so. Because life is too short not to make the most of every moment you have with the ones you love.
So what have I learned from this? Where do I go from here? How do I change my ways?…

When I find myself hesitating to express my affections, I will reflect on what I felt when I saw the elderly couple in the grocery store. I will stop to notice the expressions and actions of those in my life and I will react accordingly (there are right times and wrong times for shows of affection). I will appreciate the unspoken moments and look forward to the spoken ones – and I will make an effort to initiate both. I will be a more considerate and confident wife, a more complementary parent, a more compassionate friend, a more eager and expressive lover and overall a more expressively honest person. I will notice and appreciate what others do for me and revel in the moment each time a kind word is spoken to me. I will not allow those precious moments to be lost, forgotten or go unnoticed. And last but not least, I will pray that when I reach an elderly age, I will still hold all of those moments in such high regard; I will not become complacent in life and that I will still be assurrounded by love as I amtoday.

Cynthia Scheid
Cynthia is a speaker and coach. Please feel free to contact her with your thoughts on today’s story through her website at: www.LEScoach.com


May the Force Be With You

November 11, 2010

Sometimes,  the most logical decision pains me to commit to it.  This typically applies to decisions that involve life, emotions, morals, spirituality, religious beliefs and I feel in my heart is my ultimate purpose.

When you encounter that situation, sit in a quiet room, close your eyes and clear your mind of all thoughts.  It is at that moment where you are clear and you heart will be able to speak to you.  The heart knows what it wants and when it gets it,  you are calm and at peace.

For me, I believe that in that moment I am open to God.  He is guiding me to the right decision.  He speaks to my heart and helps me find what is “right” for me.  Whoever your God is,  I’m sure He/She/It speaks to you, too.

Some may say, “What if someone is in a bad relationship, but their ‘heart’ is telling them to stay in that relationship?”  I say … “Well,  the heart is telling that person the relationship is bad, but that person is choosing to ignore it.” 

In a loving relationship,  the relationship is never “bad.”  Loving relationships only hit the occasional pot hole or speed bump. 

Sit in silence and listen to the force inside of you that is guiding you along the way.  You will find that life really doesn’t have to be that hard.

Today I leave you with a conversation between Luke and Yoda from the move Star Wars.

Luke How do I know the right decision to make?  Among all the many decisions, how do I know the one that will be with the force?
 
YodaYou will know through peace and calm.  You will know you’re on the right track when you’re not feeling frantic, when you’re not feeling anxious, when you’re not struggling with different parts of yourself.  When you get to the right answer and the right decision that is yours, there will be a peace and calm that will come from within you and radiate from you.

Don’t worry, be happy … life is good!
Cat