One Vision

November 22, 2010

“If Catherine has one vision and George has one vision … what do you have?  Division.”  – Father Manny, St. Michael’s church.

2 years ago today,  the priest told us the above quote at our wedding ceremony.  His little quote still makes us giggle and our friends still talk about it … but we all know that Father Manny was right.   Although we’ve only been married for 2 years,  we have been together for 10 years.  I’d be lying if I said our relationship has always been filled with candy and roses.  We do have the occasional “debate.”

Gee and I have always said that we don’t fight … we debate!  What makes a fight different from a debate is that we are really listening to each other and trying to understand the other person’s point of view.  After our debate,  we come to some sort of compromise and decide what the best thing is to do. 

I make our debates sound very civil, huh?  It’s not always that way.  Sometimes they get really heated and sometimes we cry … but we never go to bed angry.   We always come to some sort of compromise or we realize at the end how silly we were for debating in the first place. 

After we got married our debates have gotten shorter.  One of the reason’s that they have gotten shorter is we started to say, “One Vision!”  in the middle of our debate.  It always lightens the mood and reminds us that we’ve got to get to the point and compromise.

Always remember to share the same vision with your partner.  If there are any disagreements … don’t fight … debate!

just me,


The Power of Intention

November 16, 2010

I recently bought one of his books called The Power of Intention  written by Dr. Wayne Dyer which explores the idea that intention is not something we do, but an energy we are a part of.  I know exactly what he is referring to.  Everything falls into place when I give into this force that tells me something just “feels right.”

Here’s an excerpt from page 10 of the book that I thought was very interesting.  I hope you find it interesting too.

Ego is made of six primary ingredients that account for how we experience ourselves as disconnected.  By allowing ego to determine your life path, you deactivate the power of intention.  Briefly, here are the six ego beliefs.  I’ve written more extensively about them in several of my previous books, most notably Your Sacred Self.

  1. I am what I have.  My possession define me.
  2. I am what I do.  My achievements define me.
  3. I am what others think of me.  My reputation defines me.
  4. I am separate from everyone.  My body defines me as alone.
  5. I am separate from all that is missing in my life.  My life space is disconnected from my desires.
  6. I am separate from God.  My life depends on God’s assessment of my worthiness.

No matter how hard you try, intention can’t be accessed through ego, so take some time to recognize and read just any or all of these six beliefs.  When the supremacy of ego is weakened in your life, you can seek intention and maximize your potential.

Just me,

Happy News: A Baby Girl!

May 6, 2010

A height of happiness for one of my dearest friends…I got a message that she delivered her first baby this morning at 3:59 am.  It’s a baby girl! What an exciting new adventure. They’re going to be awesome parents! Sooo happy for them! Congratulations!

Live with No Regrets

April 6, 2010

A potential employer asked me, “If you could change anything about your career,  what would it be?”

I could honestly respond, “I wouldn’t change a thing.”


I didn’t always feel that way about my career or about life in general.

Then one day,  I took a really good look at myself and realized that if I changed the past,  I wouldn’t be who I am today. I would be a totally different person if I hadn’t gone through all ups, downs, twists, and turns.

Make a decision and stick with it.  I promise there are blessings in every outcome … even if you can see it right away.

Quote of the Day: Random acts of kindness

April 6, 2010

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”

-AESOP, The Lion and the Mouse

I heard a heart warming story yesterday that I thought I’d share.  Back in 2000, a friend of mine had registered to be a bone marrow donor.  Almost nine years later, he was contacted and told that he was a donor match!   Being a bone marrow donor is not as simple as giving blood.   The process he chose to undergo involved a time commitment,  testing, doctor visits, injections, potential health risks, and recovery.  As a young, healthy guy he felt that it was a small sacrifice to know that he could be prolonging someone elses life.  The recipient would be someone he had never met, and at the time, knew very little about.

This past weekend, it had been a year since his donation to the recipient.  The recipient who lives on the other side of the country, contacted him and gratefully thanked him for what he did, especially since donors of their ethnicity are uncommon.  Turns out, the recipient is only a few years older than my friend.   He has a wife and two young children, and is a pastor for a church in his hometown.  The entire church was praying for their health and a positive outcome.   He’s not 100 %  yet, but over the past weekend he played his first nine hole round of golf in years.   He said it tired him out a bit, but it was so worth it!

I  was totally inspired when my friend told me this story.  He selflessly sacrificed a little to give a priceless gift to a perfect stranger, and expected nothing in return.   The world can seem like a really tough place sometimes, but the kindness of strangers reminds us that there is so much hope out there.  Even the smallest things we do for someone else can really make their day, and in turn, they can really make ours too!  

sharon 🙂

Don’t Dwell…Do!

March 29, 2010

Some people call me the “Get Over It Queen” because I have the ability to process my emotions and move forward.  I don’t dwell on things,  I do something about it.   I process the situation and figure out how to turn it into something positive and constructive.

Bad things happen all the time,  it’s how you take it that matters.

We’ve all been impacted by a not so fortunate situation.  Instead of looking at them like they are a dead end, look at them as an opportunity to grow and learn.  After all,  life is about the journey.

Miley Cyrus sings a really sweet song that sends a good message.  It’s about “The Climb.”  Below is the video.  If you can’t see the video click here.

When it comes to dealing with the “not so great” situation,  I go through 3 steps:

1.  Who, what, where, how and why did this happen?

Through understanding the who, what, where, how and why a situation happened you gain a better understanding of how to better tackle or avoid this situation again.  Try to weed out all the emotions and focus only on the facts.  Try to be objective and focus on things you know for certain are true.

Example: I was  laid off from my job due to funding issues.  The budget couldn’t accommodate all the needed resources.  I was laid off and it had nothing to do with my performance on the job.

2.  What did I learn?

In all all situations, I believe that we learn something.  Weather it’s something about work or people.  Most importantly it’s important to identify what you have a learned about yourself.

Example:  I learned that I need to do more research and ask more questions before deciding to work for a company.  I also learned that if my goal is to become a really good project manager I need to do some reading, take some classes, and become certified.  Through that process I will feel more confident in my abilities.  I know I don’t need to be certified to do the job, but it gives me peace of mind.

3.  Accept what has happened and look at the “bright side.”

Acceptance will help you get over it.  You can’t fix what has already been done,  the only thing you can do is is accept it and move forward.  Identify the “bright side” and turn it into something constructive and positive.

Example: The bright side is,  I have had some time to look closer at myself and identify my strengths and weaknesses.  I’ve had some time to remind myself about why I work.  It’s not about the money.  I work to contribute for the greater good of mankind, even if it is a small contribution…I need to know my job helps people.  Most importantly, I work for my family so I can provide food, shelter, and water.  The bright side is I have emerged as a stronger person and I can help others make it through a similar situation.

Be strong, be positive.  Your height of happiness awaits you …. I know it!

just me,


Kids are Happiness

March 17, 2010

I love how kids have not yet been tainted by society.

They remind us that we often stress about the things in life that don’t really matter.

Here’s a video of my 2-year-old nephew, Jaden, singing about the world.  At about 0:43 he sings twinkle twinkle little star.

We can learn quite a few things from Jaden, and other kids about his age:

  1. Sing and dancing is not only fun, but it makes people smile
  2. Hug and kiss your family every time you see them
  3. Play with those who aren’t being played with
  4. There isn’t anything that can’t be learned
  5. It was a good day if we prayed, ate, pooped, and played

There is a lot more we can learn from kids … they are happiness in a tiny little package.