Overwhelmed? This will help!

April 28, 2010

“I know you can feel overwhelmed, and you can be underwhelmed, but can you ever just be whelmed?”

– Quote taken from the movie Ten Things I Hate About You
We tend to feel overwhelmed more frequently than we feel underwhelmed.  This can create a lot of stress and lead to unhappiness.

Here are 3 steps to help you go from feeling overwhelmed to feeling like you can make it through the day, or even life.

1.  Write everything you need to do on a piece of paper

The act of writing something down on a piece of paper takes it out of your head and transfers it somewhere else.  Now,  all the things floating around in your head become real because you can see it.

It is easy to assume that you might write it down and forget about it.  However, I’ve noticed the exact opposite happens … I tend to get have a stronger desire to complete each task.

This step is to clear you mind and allow for instant relief.  If you don’t believe me … try it.

My to do list. Funny how "Work Out" is not prioritized.

2.  Take a few minutes and  be still

Now that everything is out of your head and on paper,  take a few minutes and be still.  Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and relax.

By taking a few minutes to be still,  your body and mind will have a chance to refocus and re-energize.  When you open your eyes you will be ready to tackle the list.

Before proceeding to step 3,  take 2 seconds to say, “Thank you for today.”  It is always to be important to be thankful for today.  It reminds us that we each serve purpose.

3.  Look at your long list of things and pick 3 things to do

It could be 3 small things, it could be 3 big things… just pick three.  How you decide is entirely up to you.  If one of those 3 things is a BIG project,  break it down into smaller chunks.  It will feel less overwhelming when you see it’s individual parts.

By focusing on 3 things,  you will be able to concentrate and produce quality output.  When you are thinking about too many things at once,  each thought suffers and you risk confusing ideas or performing  at a mediocre level as opposed to an excellent level.

Concentrate and devote all your energy to those 3 things.  You will find that you will  complete things faster and more efficiently.

Sometimes,  after you identify 1, 2, and 3 … you will want to identify 4, 5, and 6!  If not, don’t sweat it … one step at a time. 🙂

TA DA!! You’re ready for the day!

I recommend doing this every morning.  It will help you start each day fresh and calm.

I hope this helps bring you closer to your happiness and your dreams!

just me,



Spring Cleaning

April 27, 2010

Have you seen that show on TLC called Hoarding: Buried Alive?  Just watching that show and seeing those people’s living environment makes me want to cringe a little.  Of course that’s on the extreme end of a cluttered environment.  For the majority of us, we might just have a pile here or there, a dump drawer, or closet that we stick all of the “etcetera” stuff into.   Some people believe that if there is a lot of clutter in your environment, then the chances are that it probably exists in other areas of our lives too.  I know that when things are in order in my life and my surroundings, I do feel more relaxed and more at ease. 
So many things we hold on to because you tell yourself that I might need this one day, or this was my favorite shirt or pair of jeans (even if you haven’t worn them in 2 years and they hardly fit), and other excuses like that.  Living in a disorganized place can take up energy and increase your stress.  If you find yourself looking through a pile of old papers trying to find that one important document you need, then it’s probably time to invest in a paper shredder.  Or if you’re stressing out digging through your closet to find that sweater you wanted to wear for dinner tonight, then you probably have a whole bunch of clothes that are just taking up space.  It can be draining.  If you haven’t worn something in over a year or two, then it’s probably time to make a donation and give some of those things up to people who can really use them. 
So this pertains to the next upcoming thing on my “To Do” list.  I realized that I’ve got a lot of things I can probably sell or donate, that aren’t a necessity to me anymore and are just taking up space.  They will probably be more of a benefit to someone else.  The concept is that if you simplify your surroundings, then you simplify your life.  As time consuming as it might be to initially go through all of the “extra” stuff I haven’t used, or even remember owning, it’s probably going to be well worth it.  Spring cleaning here we go…

We don’t lose, we gain.

April 26, 2010

I’ve been sitting here unemployed for about 5 weeks.  This time has given me a lot of time to think.

Every day that has passed has given me a better sense of who I am and what I want to become.  I thought I knew me, but I was just scratching the surface.  Each and every day has brought me closer to realizing the woman I want to be.

I may have lost my job, but I gained an even better sense of who I am and who I want to become.

The funny things is,  we never really know who you are unless you are forced to look at yourself.  I’ve noticed that it’s often the toughest times in our lives we choose to pray and reflect on ourselves.  Why don’t we do this everyday?

If we did this everyday or even just once a week, maybe, we would be happier and the world would be happier.

  1. Thank your God for giving you all the blessings He has given you.
  2. Look around and appreciate what you have.
  3. Ask yourself if you have accomplished anything good today.
  4. Ask yourself what you could have done better.
  5. Remind yourself of your own personal goals, values, and beliefs.

Those are just 5 simple things that we should do on a daily basis.  To be honest,  I only do a few of these things everyday, but I should have been ALL those things everyday.  By giving thanks every day we are reminded how fortunate we are to have seen another day and enjoy the simple things that we take for granted.

Close your eyes and think about the last time you felt you “lost” something.  I bet you can think of something you gained from that.

The more appreciative you become,  the more happier you become.

just me,


Two Farmers

April 24, 2010

The happy farm.

My husband and I watched the movie “Facing the Giants” the other day.  The movie is an inspiration, faith-based story about a college football and their coach.  The focuses on how the coach is facing many professional and personal struggles and how he turns to faith to help him through.

The movie was very touching.  The following dialog between the coach and another character really caught my attention.

Coach: I prayed so hard, but I still can’t seem to win.
Mr. Bridges: I heard of a story of two farmers praying to God for rain to come. Both prayed but only one prepared the land. Who do you think trusted God more to send the rain?

I know not all of the people reading this are religious.  You may believe in a different God than I do, or maybe you believe in multiple Gods.  Although the above dialog has to be in trusting in your God(s), it also applies to the old saying “You can’t just sit around waiting for things to happen.”

Many of us aspire to achieve a life of happiness.  While some of us choose to cry about how we do not have it, some of us choose to reach for that happiness.  Achieving happiness is not easy.  You will have to change your attitude and accept those things you cannot change.  You will have to pick and choose your battles and often times you’ll have to make difficult decisions let go of certain things and strive towards reaching a better future.  It is a lot of work to achieve any goal in life.  You just have to prepare yourself for it and be ready and willing to receive it.

I bet if you can replace the word “happiness” with one of the following: “financial freedom”, “luxurious living”, “fun”, “purpose”, “self worth”,  or even “spiritual soundness.”  It applies to everything.

Choose to work hard for what you want.  I promise you will be rewarded.  The journey may be tough,  but the reward will be worth it.

just me,



April 21, 2010

Only we understand why we're in the bathroom. lol 🙂


“Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow.  Don’t walk beside me, I may not lead.  Walk beside me and be my friend.” – Alber Camus


I have two Best Friends, Sharon and Kristine.  I’ve known Kristine since I was about 13 and Sharon since I was about 18.  So … if I’m 30 … that means we’ve all been friends for a really, really long time.

To me, “best friend” means more than “a person who I have known a really long time.”  A best friend is someone who has stuck around through all the ups, downs, lefts, rights, diagonals, and loop-de-loops.


“A friend is someone who sees through you and still enjoys the view.” – Wilma Askinas


Friendship isn’t alway pretty.  There are the occasional bickers and disagreements, but it’s how people get through those though times that help the friendship to grow stronger.  I know we’ve been through our share of bickers, but it’s how we’ve chosen to move forward and learn from them that has enabled us to stay close.

When I think of my BFFs I think of:

  • how it feels like a LONG time when we haven’t talked, texted, or emailed each other for a week
  • how we can tell each other the most embarrassing moment of the day and not feel embarrassed about it
  • how we support each other no matter what
  • how we can give each other that “look” and know something is up
  • how we pray for each other when we forget to pray for ourselves
  • how we constantly boost each other up when we’re down
  • how we trust each other with our deepest darkest secrets
  • how we accept each other and all our quirks
  • how we laugh at the corniest jokes that no one else gets
  • how we listen to each other
  • how we always look at the bright side, but are not afraid to bring up the dark
  • how “real” we can be with each other

This list goes on and on.  These girls are my sisters from another mister and I feel truly blessed to have them in my life.  This little blog doesn’t even dive in on how deep my love goes for.  They are my besties and they are my heights of happiness ….

Quote of the Day: The Fight to Let Go

April 21, 2010

“Change is never easy, you fight to hold on, and you fight to let go.”

-The Wonder Years

Being stuck in the comfort zone is easy.  The challenge is change.  Fear of the unknown is a powerful thing.  It can hold us back when what we should be doing is making moves.

I think the most impactful example of this is when it applies to people in our lives that affect us, as a result of change.  In a strained relationship, you can try and exhaust all means to hold on to that bond, up until the point where it affects your happiness more than it’s worth.  You may try and try your best to mend a relationship that’s unmendable in an attempt to resist change.  That’s the fight to hold on. 

Sometimes we just have to accept that it’s better to let go and accept the change ahead, and also to accept the things that we can’t change no matter how hard we try.  When people’s roles in our lives transform, we may resist initially, but ultimately, the new role may be better than the old one. 

When people leave our lives, I think the best way to look at it is if they’re no longer a part of your life, it’s simply because they’re already done accomplishing whatever purpose it was they needed to do in your life.  Something takes them away and they move on, and so should you.  And yes, the letting go part can be the toughest fight of all, but it can also be the most effective.

 Change is inevitable, embrace it!

sharon 🙂

Be Yourself

April 16, 2010

One of the steps to achieve 100% true happiness is to love and accept yourself for who you really are.  This step is one of the most difficult because, it forces us to look at who we truly are not who other people think we are.

The truth is … we are all a little scared of what other people think of us.  Just admit it … you are … even if it’s just a little bit or if it’s just around certain people.  We are afraid that if we show our quirks and our fears that they are going to judge us and maybe they will even laugh at us.

But you know what … you will be so much happier if you just be who you are.  Why?

  • You will only be surrounded by people who accept you as you are.
  • You will no longer have to put on an “act” in front of other people
  • You will eliminate unnecessary worry from you life
  • You will be free
  • You will be secure in who you are and what you want to become
  • The sky is the limit and nothing can stop you from here.

Point is … life is pretty complicated … being yourself makes it a lot more simpler but a lot more happier.